Do you feel like you’re living two lives?
On the outside everything looks perfect. You’re a walking success, spreading confidence and self-esteem everywhere you go. Your work and home life are balanced, and everything appears ideal. However, the inside is a different story. You feel anxious, exhausted and filled with self-doubt. Does this sound familiar?
The reality of our modern lives
As women, we women try to fit in and do our duty, striving to take care of and please others, while juggling a career, relationship and a family. It’s no wonder we can often lose ourselves in the process; and when that happens, we give away our power and are no longer in charge of our own lives. We lose our energy and feel depleted. But who is to blame?
How can we lead others when we cannot lead ourselves?
Fighting against windmills
In order to compete in a ‘man’s world’ we, female leaders, often suppress our femininity and adopt ‘masculine behaviour’ to gain respect, to show we are ‘the boss’ and in control. As a result, we appear confident and superior to others, and while this works to a certain degree, women who take this approach often become more stressed, overwhelmed and are at risk of burning out.
Rather than leading ourselves to success, we’re leading ourselves in the opposite direction.This not only affects our own lives but ripples into our work and home life, affecting those around us.